Heart to Heart

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July 15, 2019

Heart to Heart

Some time ago, I was reading a life of St Therese by a Carmelite priest, and in one of his reflections, he quotes Thomas Hardy as saying: “Every person is like a planet who carries in his or her orbit their own atmosphere.” He then asks the question: “What happens when people come into my orbit?” And he spells out the question in very practical terms: “By my words, looks, gestures and deeds, what atmosphere do I create at home or in the workplace?” Drawing on his own experience of 40 years in religious life, he reflects that one thing he has learnt is that each member in the community is a very powerful person, who has the capacity to make the common life a joy or a burden. I remember years ago, when I was a young Jesuit on retreat, being quite shocked when the retreat giver, talking on this very point, gave the example of a nun he knew in one of our hospitals, who had the reputation of being able to get all the nurses fighting whenever she was put in charge of a ward. By contrast, one sure way we can make life a joy for those we live with is to foster the contemplative ode, which is an important dimension of our CLC way of life: “That loving attention to the other that allows the other to be fully and freely present.”


  1. I feel that one’s conversion can also come through the most unexpected life experience…one that we would never have imagined to find ourselves in. Then something stirs in us that results in us making choices that best reflect the person we are or the person we are hoping to be. I tend to agree to the above comment…conversion for me is a lifelong process. I like the words ‘being in love’ instead of ‘falling in love’ because one can also easily ‘fall out of love’. 🙂

  2. Iain Radvan Iain Radvan says:

    This book is a good find for my study. Conversion is not always falling off a horse like St Paul. Usually it is a slow process over a life time, but here are some moments/events in life that we remember as significant as a change in our lives. Such as when I decide to become a vegetarian, or to be more intentional about recycling. It’s about my values and goals in life, and not just ‘religious’ ones. In the area of faith, I wonder if it involves ‘falling in love’ with Jesus or something else? Iain

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